Wednesday, November 26, 2014

Thanksgiving Message



The Not-So-Secret of a Thankful Heart



Message by:
Pastor Terry Crawford
Covenant Church
Shepherdstown, WV

Being thankful is good for you

  • Thankful people thank God

    Romans 6:17-18 NIV
    17But thanks be to God that, though you used to be slaves to sin, you have come to obey from your heart the pattern of teaching that has now claimed your allegiance. 18You have been set free from sin and have become slaves to righteousness.

    2 Corinthians 2:14 NIV
    But thanks be to God, who always leads us as captives in Christ’s triumphal procession and uses us to spread the aroma of the knowledge of him everywhere.

    1 Corinthians 15:56-57 NIV
    56The sting of death is sin, and the power of sin is the law. 57But thanks be to God! He gives us the victory through our Lord Jesus Christ.

  • Thanklessness and ingratitude are not fruits of a follower of Jesus

    2 Timothy 3:1-5 NIV
    1But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. 2People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive, disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, 4treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— 5having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people.

    Philippians 1:3-6
    3I thank my God every time I remember you. 4In all my prayers for all of you, I always pray with joy 5because of your partnership in the gospel from the first day until now, 6being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.

  • Thankful people thank people


  • Thankful people are changed people

    1 Thessalonians 5:12-18 NIV
    12Now we ask you, brothers and sisters, to acknowledge those who work hard among you, who care for you in the Lord and who admonish you. 13Hold them in the highest regard in love because of their work. Live in peace with each other. 14And we urge you, brothers and sisters, warn those who are idle and disruptive, encourage the disheartened, help the weak, be patient with everyone. 15Make sure that nobody pays back wrong for wrong, but always strive to do what is good for each other and for everyone else. 16Rejoice always, 17pray continually, 18give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus.


  • A thankful heart is an outward focusedheart


My Next Steps

  • Today I commit to give thanks to God in my daily prayer time.
  • This week I commit to tell someone in my circle of influence why I am thankful for them.
  • This week I commit to tell some in my church family why I am thankful for them.


Sunday, November 16, 2014

Transformed Week 8 - Facing the Giants in Life and Work



TRANSFORMED – Facing Giants in Life and Work



Message by:
Pastor Terry Crawford
Covenant Church
Shepherdstown, WV

God has given us a great gift. The ability to dream, to imagine the future.

Dream Busters

These problems can be financial problems. They can be emotional problems. They can be relational problems. They can be problems with your health. What do you do when you face these giants in life? How do you face the giants in your life and work?

1 SAMUEL 17:1-52
1Now the Philistines gathered their forces for war and assembled at Sokoh in Judah. They pitched camp at Ephes Dammim, between Sokoh and Azekah. 2 Saul and the Israelites assembled and camped in the Valley of Elah and drew up their battle line to meet the Philistines. 3 The Philistines occupied one hill and the Israelites another, with the valley between them.

4 A champion named Goliath, who was from Gath, came out of the Philistine camp. His height was six cubits and a span. 5 He had a bronze helmet on his head and wore a coat of scale armor of bronze weighing five thousand shekels; 6 on his legs he wore bronze greaves, and a bronze javelin was slung on his back. 7 His spear shaft was like a weaver’s rod, and its iron point weighed six hundred shekels. His shield bearer went ahead of him.

8 Goliath stood and shouted to the ranks of Israel, “Why do you come out and line up for battle? Am I not a Philistine, and are you not the servants of Saul? Choose a man and have him come down to me. 9 If he is able to fight and kill me, we will become your subjects; but if I overcome him and kill him, you will become our subjects and serve us.” 10 Then the Philistine said, “This day I defy the armies of Israel! Give me a man and let us fight each other.” 11 On hearing the Philistine’s words, Saul and all the Israelites were dismayed and terrified.

12 Now David was the son of an Ephrathite named Jesse, who was from Bethlehem in Judah. Jesse had eight sons, and in Saul’s time he was very old. 13 Jesse’s three oldest sons had followed Saul to the war: The firstborn was Eliab; the second, Abinadab; and the third, Shammah. 14 David was the youngest. The three oldest followed Saul, 15 but David went back and forth from Saul to tend his father’s sheep at Bethlehem.

16 For forty days the Philistine came forward every morning and evening and took his stand.

17 Now Jesse said to his son David, “Take this ephah of roasted grain and these ten loaves of bread for your brothers and hurry to their camp. 18 Take along these ten cheeses to the commander of their unit. See how your brothers are and bring back some assurance from them. 19 They are with Saul and all the men of Israel in the Valley of Elah, fighting against the Philistines.”

20 Early in the morning David left the flock in the care of a shepherd, loaded up and set out, as Jesse had directed. He reached the camp as the army was going out to its battle positions, shouting the war cry.21 Israel and the Philistines were drawing up their lines facing each other.22 David left his things with the keeper of supplies, ran to the battle lines and asked his brothers how they were. 23 As he was talking with them, Goliath, the Philistine champion from Gath, stepped out from his lines and shouted his usual defiance, and David heard it. 24 Whenever the Israelites saw the man, they all fled from him in great fear.

25 Now the Israelites had been saying, “Do you see how this man keeps coming out? He comes out to defy Israel. The king will give great wealth to the man who kills him. He will also give him his daughter in marriage and will exempt his family from taxes in Israel.”

26 David asked the men standing near him, “What will be done for the man who kills this Philistine and removes this disgrace from Israel? Who is this uncircumcised Philistine that he should defy the armies of the living God?”

27 They repeated to him what they had been saying and told him, “This is what will be done for the man who kills him.”

28 When Eliab, David’s oldest brother, heard him speaking with the men, he burned with anger at him and asked, “Why have you come down here? And with whom did you leave those few sheep in the wilderness? I know how conceited you are and how wicked your heart is; you came down only to watch the battle.”

29 “Now what have I done?” said David. “Can’t I even speak?” 30 He then turned away to someone else and brought up the same matter, and the men answered him as before. 31 What David said was overheard and reported to Saul, and Saul sent for him.

32 David said to Saul, “Let no one lose heart on account of this Philistine; your servant will go and fight him.”

33 Saul replied, “You are not able to go out against this Philistine and fight him; you are only a young man, and he has been a warrior from his youth.”

34 But David said to Saul, “Your servant has been keeping his father’s sheep. When a lion or a bear came and carried off a sheep from the flock, 35 I went after it, struck it and rescued the sheep from its mouth. When it turned on me, I seized it by its hair, struck it and killed it. 36 Your servant has killed both the lion and the bear; this uncircumcised Philistine will be like one of them, because he has defied the armies of the living God. 37 The Lord who rescued me from the paw of the lion and the paw of the bear will rescue me from the hand of this Philistine.”

Saul said to David, “Go, and the Lord be with you.”

38 Then Saul dressed David in his own tunic. He put a coat of armor on him and a bronze helmet on his head.39 David fastened on his sword over the tunic and tried walking around, because he was not used to them.

“I cannot go in these,” he said to Saul, “because I am not used to them.” So he took them off. 40 Then he took his staff in his hand, chose five smooth stones from the stream, put them in the pouch of his shepherd’s bag and, with his sling in his hand, approached the Philistine.

41 Meanwhile, the Philistine, with his shield bearer in front of him, kept coming closer to David. 42 He looked David over and saw that he was little more than a boy, glowing with health and handsome, and he despised him.43 He said to David, “Am I a dog, that you come at me with sticks?” And the Philistine cursed David by his gods. 44 “Come here,” he said, “and I’ll give your flesh to the birds and the wild animals!”

45 David said to the Philistine, “You come against me with sword and spear and javelin, but I come against you in the name of the Lord Almighty, the God of the armies of Israel, whom you have defied. 46 This day the Lord will deliver you into my hands, and I’ll strike you down and cut off your head. This very day I will give the carcasses of the Philistine army to the birds and the wild animals, and the whole world will know that there is a God in Israel.47 All those gathered here will know that it is not by sword or spear that the Lord saves; for the battle is the Lord’s, and he will give all of you into our hands.”

48 As the Philistine moved closer to attack him, David ran quickly toward the battle line to meet him. 49 Reaching into his bag and taking out a stone, he slung it and struck the Philistine on the forehead. The stone sank into his forehead, and he fell facedown on the ground.

50 So David triumphed over the Philistine with a sling and a stone; without a sword in his hand he struck down the Philistine and killed him.

51 David ran and stood over him. He took hold of the Philistine’s sword and drew it from the sheath. After he killed him, he cut off his head with the sword.

When the Philistines saw that their hero was dead, they turned and ran. 52 Then the men of Israel and Judah surged forward with a shout and pursued the Philistines to the entrance of Gath and to the gates of Ekron. Their dead were strewn along the Shaaraim road to Gath and Ekron. 53 When the Israelites returned from chasing the Philistines, they plundered their camp.

54 David took the Philistine’s head and brought it to Jerusalem; he put the Philistine’s weapons in his own tent.

55 As Saul watched David going out to meet the Philistine, he said to Abner, commander of the army, “Abner, whose son is that young man?”

Abner replied, “As surely as you live, Your Majesty, I don’t know.”

56 The king said, “Find out whose son this young man is.”

57 As soon as David returned from killing the Philistine, Abner took him and brought him before Saul, with David still holding the Philistine’s head.

58 “Whose son are you, young man?” Saul asked him. David said, “I am the son of your servant Jesse of Bethlehem.”


An Important lesson from David and Goliath Story: Giants are not what they seem.

The kinds of obstacles we face in our life are not nearly as insurmountable and depressing and overwhelming as they appear to be at first blush. Look closely and you’ll see a different truth. Giants can be slain. Particularly by those who have the Spirit of the Lord in their hearts.

It’s unlikely that you’re ever going to have to face a physical giant like David did. But it is highly likely that you’re going to have to face a whole lot of other common giants. Giants of financial problems, relational problems, marriage problems, work problems. Problems that keep you from going after your dream. You are far more likely to have to face those giants than a Goliath. But they can be just as big and just as intimidating and can keep you from becoming who God wants you to be and fulfilling the dream that God has put in your heart.

THE OTHER “GIANTS” DAVID HAD TO FACE - Dream Busters

Samuel anoints David as King and then says wait.

  1. DELAY

    1 SAMUEL 17:12-15
    Now David was the son of an Ephrathite of Bethlehem in Judah, named Jesse, who had eight sons. … David was the youngest. The three eldest followed Saul, but David went back and forth from Saul to feed his father's sheep at Bethlehem.

    Sometimes the people who hold you back the most are those who love you the most.

  2. DISCOURAGEMENT

    1 SAMUEL 17:8-11
     8 He stood and shouted to the ranks of Israel, “Why have you come out to draw up for battle? Am I not a Philistine, and are you not servants of Saul? Choose a man for yourselves, and let him come down to me.  9  If he is able to fight with me and kill me, then we will be your servants. But if I prevail against him and kill him, then you shall be our servants and serve us.”  10 And the Philistine said, “I defy the ranks of Israel this day. Give me a man, that we may fight together.” 11 When Saul and all Israel heard these words of the Philistine, they were dismayed and greatly afraid.
    1 SAMUEL 17:16
     For forty days the Philistine came forward and took his stand, morning and evening.

    1 SAMUEL 17:23-24
    As he talked with them, behold, the champion, the Philistine of Gath, Goliath by name, came up out of the ranks of the Philistines and spoke the same words as before. And David heard him. All the men of Israel, when they saw the man, fled from him and were much afraid.

    Negativity is contagious.

  3. DISAPPROVAL

    1 SAMUEL 17:26, 28-29
     And David said to the men who stood by him, “What shall be done for the man who kills this Philistine and takes away the reproach from Israel? … Now Eliab his eldest brother heard when he spoke to the men. And Eliab's anger was kindled against David, and he said, “Why have you come down? And with whom have you left those few sheep in the wilderness? I know your presumption and the evil of your heart, for you have come down to see the battle.” And David said, “What have I done now?

    Here’s the problem. The reason why most people don’t ever go after their dream is they’re afraid of disapproval. They are afraid of rejection. In this case David’s own brother questions his motives.

    Sometimes it’s your own family that doesn’t want you to accomplish God’s dream.

    It may be envy. It may be jealousy. It may be they think they know you better than you do and they know your weaknesses. But they don’t know God’s strength. It may be that they would be embarrassed. It may be that they would resent you being successful and it would make them look bad. Whatever it is ,sibling rivalry often leads to resentment.

    Let the size of your God determine the size of your goal.

  4. DOUBT

    1 SAMUEL 17:32-33
     And David said to Saul, “Let no man's heart fail because of him. Your servant will go and fight with this Philistine.”  And Saul said to David, “You are not able to go against this Philistine to fight with him, for you are but a youth, and he has been a man of war from his youth.”

    Am I capable of this? Am I up to the task for this? Can I actually do what God is asking me to do?

    Then there are people all around you who tell you, you can’t. In David’s case the expert doubted his ability. There was nobody who was a greater expert on war than King Saul because Saul had been in battle his entire life.

    How do you defeat the giants that are keeping you from being the man God wants you to be? How do you defeat these fears that are keeping you from being the woman God wants you to be? To be a person of great faith with a great dream and a great life work. How do you overcome those giants?

    You do the very things that David did. The four things that David did to defeat these giants before he gets to Goliath.


HOW TO DEFEAT GIANTS

  1. I remember how God has helped me in the past.

    1 SAMUEL 17:37
    And David said, “The Lord who delivered me from the paw of the lion and from the paw of the bear will deliver me from the hand of this Philistine.”  

  2. I use the tools that God has given me now!

      1 SAMUEL 17:38-40
    Then Saul clothed David with his armor. …Then David said to Saul, “I cannot go with these, for I have not tested them.” So David put them off.  Then he took his staff in his hand and chose five smooth stones from the brook and put them in his shepherd's pouch. His sling was in his hand, and he approached the Philistine.

  3. I ignore the dreambusters!

    1 SAMUEL 30:6 (KJV)
    And David was greatly distressed; … but David encouraged himself in the LORD his God.

  4. I expect God to help me for his glory!

    1 SAMUEL 17:45-47
    Then David said to the Philistine, “You come to me with a sword and with a spear and with a javelin, but I come to you in the name of the Lord of hosts…. This day the Lord will deliver you into my hand…that all this assembly may know that the Lord saves not with sword and spear. For the battle is the Lord's, and he will give you into our hand.”


Wednesday, November 12, 2014

Transformed Week 7 - How I See and Use Money



TRANSFORMED – How I See and Use Money



Message by:
Pastor Terry Crawford
Covenant Church
Shepherdstown, WV

Have you ever been where the bills are more than the income? You have more month than you have money. Or you want to do something bigger or deeper or more compassionate with your resources and when you look around, you don’t have any extra. Every person who lives in this century will be affected by their use of money or someone else’s use of money. And as we go through our 50 days of Transformation, dealing will spiritual health, physical health, mental health, emotional health, relational health and vocational health, we also have the great opportunity to look today at another area of our lives that needs health.

Parable: An earthly story with a heavenly meaning.

Luke 16:1-9 (NIV) 1 Jesus told his disciples: “There was a rich man whose manager was accused of wasting his possessions. 2 So he called him in and asked him, ‘What is this I hear about you? Give an account of your management, because you cannot be manager any longer.’ 3 “The manager said to himself, ‘What shall I do now? My master is taking away my job. I’m not strong enough to dig, and I’m ashamed to beg— 4 I know what I’ll do so that, when I lose my job here, people will welcome me into their houses.’ 5 “So he called in each one of his master’s debtors. He asked the first, ‘How much do you owe my master?’ 6 “‘Nine hundred gallons of olive oil,’ he replied. “The manager told him, ‘Take your bill, sit down quickly, and make it four hundred and fifty.’ 7 “Then he asked the second, ‘And how much do you owe?’“‘A thousand bushels of wheat,’ he replied. “He told him, ‘Take your bill and make it eight hundred.’ 8 “The master commended the dishonest manager because he had acted shrewdly. For the people of this world are more shrewd in dealing with their own kind than are the people of the light. 9 I tell you, use worldly wealth to gain friends for yourselves, so that when it is gone, you will be welcomed into eternal dwellings.

Jesus was talking to managers, not masters.

IMPORTANT THINGS TO REMEMBER ABOUT MONEY

  1. IT ALL BELONGS TO GOD!

    Luke 16:3 (NIV) 3 “The manager said to himself, ‘What shall I do now? My master is taking away my job. I’m not strong enough to dig, and I’m ashamed to beg—


  2. WE CAN MANAGE IT WELL OR BADLY.

    Luke 16:1, 8 (NIV) 1 Jesus told his disciples: “There was a rich man whose manager was accused of wasting his possessions. , 8 “The master commended the dishonest manager because he had acted shrewdly. For the people of this world are more shrewd in dealing with their own kind than are the people of the light.


  3. Reasons We Aren’t Better With Our Finances •
    • We don’t want to be.
    • We want to be but don’t know how.
    • We want to be and know how, but keep sliding back into bad habits.


  4. THE BEST USE OF MONEY IS TO GET PEOPLE INTO HEAVEN.

    Luke 16:9 (NIV) 9 I tell you, use worldly wealth to gain friends for yourselves, so that when it is gone, you will be welcomed into eternal dwellings.


  5. MONEY IS A:

    • TOOL OF GREAT VALUE

      Luke 16:9 (NIV) 9 I tell you, use worldly wealth to gain friends for yourselves, so that when it is gone, you will be welcomed into eternal dwellings.


    • TEST OF OUR PRIORITIES

      Luke 16:10-12 (NIV) 10 “Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much, and whoever is dishonest with very little will also be dishonest with much. 11 So if you have not been trustworthy in handling worldly wealth, who will trust you with true riches? 12 And if you have not been trustworthy with someone else’s property, who will give you property of your own?

      Mathew 6:19-21 (NIV) 19 “Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moths and vermin destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. 20 But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moths and vermin do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. 21 For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.

      Proverbs 11:28 (NIV) Those who trust in their riches will fall, but the righteous will thrive like a green leaf.


    • TRADEMARK OF WHO WE ARE

      Luke 16:13 (NIV) “No one can serve two masters. Either you will hate the one and love the other, or you will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve both God and money.”


NEXT STEPS

  • Today I recognize my mismanagement of God’s resources and commit to prioritize my finances.
  • Today I commit to join what God is doing at Covenant through regular giving.
  • This week I will do one thing financially to invest into eternity.

Monday, November 3, 2014

Transformed Week 6 - Facing Fears That Ruin Relationships



TRANSFORMED – Facing Fears That Ruin Relationships



Message by:
Pastor Terry Crawford
Covenant Church
Shepherdstown, WV

Genesis 3:6-19
When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they realized they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves. Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the LORDGod as he was walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and they hid from theLORDGod among the trees of the garden. But the LORDGod called to the man, “Where are you?” He answered, “I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid.” And he said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from?” The man said, “The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.” Then the LORDGod said to the woman, “What is this you have done?” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.” So the LORDGod said to the serpent, “Because you have done this,“Cursed are you above all livestock and all wild animals! You will crawl on your belly and you will eat dust all the days of your life. And I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your offspringand hers; he will crushyour head, and you will strike his heel.” To the woman he said, “I will make your pains in childbearing very severe; with painful labor you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.” To Adam he said, “Because you listened to your wife and ate fruit from the tree about which I commanded you, ‘You must not eat from it,’ “Cursed is the ground because of you; through painful toil you will eat food from it all the days of your life. It will produce thorns and thistles for you, and you will eat the plants of the field. By the sweat of your brow you will eat your food until you return to the ground, since from it you were taken; for dust you are and to dust you will return.”

THE 3 BASIC FEARS THAT RUIN RELATIONSHIPS

  1. MY FEAR OF EXPOSURE MAKES ME DISTANT

    Genesis 3:9-10
    But the LORDGod called to the man, “Where are you?” He answered, “I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid.”


  2. MY FEAR OF DISAPPROVAL MAKES ME DEFENSIVE

    Genesis 3:12-13
    The man said, “The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.” Then the LORDGod said to the woman, “What is this you have done?” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.”


  3. MY FEAR OF LOSING CONTROL MAKES ME DEMANDING

    Genesis 3:16
    To the woman he said, “I will make your pains in childbearing very severe; with painful labor you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.”


THE ANTIDOTE: LOVE! LEARN TO LIVE IN GOD’S LOVE

1 John 4:18
There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.

HOW DO I LIVE IN GOD’S LOVE?
  1. Everyday surrender my HEART TO GOD.

    Luke 9:23
    And he said to all, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me.

    Proverbs 3:5-6
    Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.


  2. Everyday remember THE WAY GOD LOVES ME.

    • I’m completely accepted.

      Titus 3:7 (CEV)
      so that, having been justified by his grace, we might become heirs having the hope of eternal life.


    • I’m unconditionally loved.

      Romans 8:37-39
      No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons,neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.


    • I’m totally forgiven.

      Colossians 2:13-14
      When you were dead in your sins and in the uncircumcision of your flesh, God made youalive with Christ. He forgave us all our sins, having canceled the charge of our legal indebtedness, which stood against us and condemned us; he has taken it away, nailing it to the cross.


    • I’m considered extremely valuable.

      1 Corinthians 7:23
      You were bought at a price; do not become slaves of human beings.


  3. Everyday offer THAT SAME LOVE TO OTHERS.

    John 13:34
    “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.

    Romans 15:7
    Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God.

    1 Corinthians 13:7
    Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.


NEXT STEPS
  • Today I surrender my heart to God’s.
  • Today I commit to remember the way God loves me even when I mess up.
  • Today I commit to believe the best of others and extend grace to others.

Transformed Week 5 - How to Deal with How I Feel



TRANSFORMED – Facing Fears That Ruin Relationships



Message by:
Pastor Terry Crawford
Covenant Church
Shepherdstown, WV

Genesis 3:6-19
When the woman saw that the fruit of the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eye, and also desirable for gaining wisdom, she took some and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. Then the eyes of both of them were opened, and they realized they were naked; so they sewed fig leaves together and made coverings for themselves. Then the man and his wife heard the sound of the LORDGod as he was walking in the garden in the cool of the day, and they hid from theLORDGod among the trees of the garden. But the LORDGod called to the man, “Where are you?” He answered, “I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid.” And he said, “Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten from the tree that I commanded you not to eat from?” The man said, “The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.” Then the LORDGod said to the woman, “What is this you have done?” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.” So the LORDGod said to the serpent, “Because you have done this,“Cursed are you above all livestock and all wild animals! You will crawl on your belly and you will eat dust all the days of your life. And I will put enmity between you and the woman, and between your offspringand hers; he will crushyour head, and you will strike his heel.” To the woman he said, “I will make your pains in childbearing very severe; with painful labor you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.” To Adam he said, “Because you listened to your wife and ate fruit from the tree about which I commanded you, ‘You must not eat from it,’ “Cursed is the ground because of you; through painful toil you will eat food from it all the days of your life. It will produce thorns and thistles for you, and you will eat the plants of the field. By the sweat of your brow you will eat your food until you return to the ground, since from it you were taken; for dust you are and to dust you will return.”

THE 3 BASIC FEARS THAT RUIN RELATIONSHIPS

  1. MY FEAR OF EXPOSURE MAKES ME DISTANT

    Genesis 3:9-10
    But the LORDGod called to the man, “Where are you?” He answered, “I heard you in the garden, and I was afraid because I was naked; so I hid.”


  2. MY FEAR OF DISAPPROVAL MAKES ME DEFENSIVE

    Genesis 3:12-13
    The man said, “The woman you put here with me—she gave me some fruit from the tree, and I ate it.” Then the LORDGod said to the woman, “What is this you have done?” The woman said, “The serpent deceived me, and I ate.”


  3. MY FEAR OF LOSING CONTROL MAKES ME DEMANDING

    Genesis 3:16
    To the woman he said, “I will make your pains in childbearing very severe; with painful labor you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.”


THE ANTIDOTE: LOVE! LEARN TO LIVE IN GOD’S LOVE

1 John 4:18
There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.

HOW DO I LIVE IN GOD’S LOVE?
  1. Everyday surrender my HEART TO GOD.

    Luke 9:23
    And he said to all, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross daily and follow me.

    Proverbs 3:5-6
    Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.


  2. Everyday remember THE WAY GOD LOVES ME.

    • I’m completely accepted.

      Titus 3:7 (CEV)
      so that, having been justified by his grace, we might become heirs having the hope of eternal life.


    • I’m unconditionally loved.

      Romans 8:37-39
      No, in all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us. For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons,neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither height nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.


    • I’m totally forgiven.

      Colossians 2:13-14
      When you were dead in your sins and in the uncircumcision of your flesh, God made youalive with Christ. He forgave us all our sins, having canceled the charge of our legal indebtedness, which stood against us and condemned us; he has taken it away, nailing it to the cross.


    • I’m considered extremely valuable.

      1 Corinthians 7:23
      You were bought at a price; do not become slaves of human beings.


  3. Everyday offer THAT SAME LOVE TO OTHERS.

    John 13:34
    “A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another.

    Romans 15:7
    Accept one another, then, just as Christ accepted you, in order to bring praise to God.

    1 Corinthians 13:7
    Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.


NEXT STEPS
  • Today I surrender my heart to God’s.
  • Today I commit to remember the way God loves me even when I mess up.
  • Today I commit to believe the best of others and extend grace to others.

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